A man has faced backlash after revealing he wants to name his daughter after his late ex-girlfriend so he can ‘always have her in his life’. The 34-year-old expectant dad and his wife, 31, have been busy picking out names for their baby due in 12 weeks. The man’s suggestion to christen their daughter with the same name as his previous partner, who tragically died shortly after their split, didn’t sit well with his current spouse. Sharing his predicament on Reddit, he explained: “We don’t know the sex of the baby but we’ve started thinking about baby names.” “A couple of nights ago we were suggesting names. I had a girlfriend for around six years before meeting my now wife. Unfortunately, she passed away and I was absolutely devastated. It’s still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory. I also just love the name itself (Nancy). When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed.” His wife attempted to softly tell him that she’d feel awkward naming their daughter Nancy because of the connection to his past love but he failed to see the problem. Continuing on Reddit, he said: “The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time. She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing. We don’t know the sex of the baby but we’ve started thinking about baby names. “A couple of nights ago we were suggesting names. I had a girlfriend for around six years before meeting my now wife. Unfortunately, she passed away and I was absolutely devastated. It’s still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory. I also just love the name itself (Nancy). When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed. “The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time. She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing. I feel as though it would be a great way to remember and honour a dear friend who I miss every day. My wife doesn’t share my views and honestly, it’s caused a lot of issues. I dropped it and said it was important we both agreed on the name but she’s still insisting it’s strange and she doesn’t understand why I suggested it.” Seeking advice on whether he’s in the wrong or if his wife is overreacting, he continued: “I don’t know if she feels insecure or maybe the pregnancy is stressing her but she just won’t drop it. I honestly don’t see the issue whatsoever. “. One user responded to his dilemma by saying: “This is your wife’s baby too and you want her to think about someone you intimately loved before you married her? Ouch. You can’t honestly think that wouldn’t be hurtful, do you? ” Another chimed in with: “Not how you intended it, but it comes across of ‘Hey wife you’re my second choice, so let’s name our kid after what would have been my first choice’.” A third commenter advised: “C’mon man, use your brain. A: she is feeling big and ugly at this stage. B: she is already probably insecure about a girl you obviously have put on a pedestal in death (perfectly normal to do C: she doesn’t want to be reminded of the love you held for someone else. Fix it by apologising and never bringing it up again.”
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